Recently, I had a lifestyle cheerleading situation where I was helping a friend to bounce back from feeling her life was out of her control, to a point of feeling empowerment return to her.
What I showed her is the power in words, and how it is so important to us, on a holistic level. When I reviewed the guidance that I provided to her, it came down to some basic principles, that lead to self-confidence, and the ability to execute on your goals.
Principles of Language for Self-Confidence and Executing Goals
- Minimize your victim talk, and the “He/She made me do it” talk – if you’re an adult, then no one can really make you do anything, unless you allow them to. To empower yourself, see that you CHOSE to let the situation happen, then think of ways in the future that you can create a different, more positive outcome.
- Know your gifts and write them down – we all have things that we do wonderfully, without any effort at all! Make a list of all of those things that you do, and that you are, and look at that list every single day. Put it on your mirror, on the fridge, but somewhere you’ll be forced to see it.
- Learn to articulate your authentic thoughts – This means that you say what you mean, and you mean what you say. Sometimes being honest is difficult, that’s true. However, meaning what you say goes a long way to you being a trusted source for your opinion and thoughts, because people know they are getting the real deal according to you.
- Accentuate the positive – you know when you have those $h!tty days, and it feels like everything is just going wrong? Take those moments, and use them as learning experiences. Maybe you saw how resilient you can be. Maybe you saw that you’re taking on too much so you made more mistakes than usual, so you need to pare down your schedule. Whatever the case, every single life situation can have a positive spin.
- Say yes, no, or give an alternative; don’t say “I’ll try” – sometimes when we don’t want to do something, we say “I’ll try to get to that” or a variation of that line… Deep down, we always know whether or not we’ll do it. Be honest with yourself and the person making the request. If after you’ve said yes, you figured out that you can’t do it, get into communication with the person you made the request to immediately, so that they can make arrangements to still get the work needed done.
The overall thing to mention with these basic tips is that no one can ever be 100% perfect in achieving them all, all of the time. The message is to strive to always do your best, to the point where when you give your word, it means something that people can rely on.
The words you use to describe yourself and your life is eventually what they will be. My experience continues to show me that I get what I think about most, so I choose to see the good in people, the planet, and what’s happening in my life. Welcome to the Good Self Fulfilling Prophesies!
Tash Jefferies is a best-selling author, speaker, trainer, facilitator with Cool Connections TO and Lifestyle Cheerleader. She helps people detox their lives.
